Porn and you


Everywhere I look, I see sex. Look at an ad for just about any clothing line and it’s an incredibly thin, beautiful woman who is scantily clad. Watch a movie (not a pg kids movie either) and somewhere in it there will be a half-naked woman or man.

Do a simple google search and you can end up at a raunchy porn site.

With such easy access to sex and porn, is it becoming substitute pleasure for some men and women instead of being intimate with their spouse? Is it really desensitizing people to reality?

I have mixed feelings about porn. I mainly hate it. It degrades women and gives men a false impression of us. We’re all expected to have 24 inch waists with DD breasts. That’s not happening.

If your spouse is hiding it, lying to you about it or would rather watch it than be intimate, or still need to watch it after being intimate, there is a problem.

A serious problem that he or she made need to get help with.  I do believe that if only one person in a relationship is viewing porn and is doing so secretly or being defensive about it when confronted it’s damaging. Marriages have ended because of the lying, deceit and the fact that one spouse would rather watch two actors having sex instead of being with his wife.

However; I have read about couples who use it to help spice up their marriages. If this is what helps them get it going in the sheets by all means go at it. But do it together. Don’t hide it from one another and make sure it’s something both people would enjoy.

What irritates me about porn, is the sneaking, the lying and the deceit. I do believe, if both partners aren’t aware of the porn watching, it is a form of cheating. Perhaps not physically cheating but emotionally you are. You’re going to another woman, couple or man for pleasure. For intimacy. The other woman, couple or man has no idea who you are, where you’re from or if you have a family or not, they get paid for what they do. (As disgusting as it is.) But you, the one watching it behind your spouses back, staying up late to see it…you’re cheating.

Is it the worst kind? No. In a world full of infidelity if porn is the worst someone does, I guess it’s the best kind. Not that there is a good kind of infidelity.

It hurts knowing that your spouse would rather watch a pornographic movie or stare at photos than be with you. As innocent as you may think it is, it could be slowly killing your relationship.

If you are a secret porn watcher and you think your partner doesn’t know, you couldn’t be more wrong. I can assure you that if she/he does not know now, they will know. Things never stay hidden for long.

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